Day 17: I Can Forgive

Elevate 28 - A 28 Day Challenge to Intentionally Engage with God's Word

DAY 17

"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another,

as God in Christ forgave you.

Ephesians 4:32


A Forgiving Heart


For me, one of the hardest things to do is forgive someone who hurt me. After all, doesn’t forgiving someone mean I’m giving up, that I’m over it, that the hurt that they caused doesn’t matter anymore?

Until the Lord opened my eyes to the true heart of forgiveness, that is exactly how I felt. I didn’t want anything to do with forgiveness. Over time, God has taught me to never forget that the ultimate forgiveness came for my sins on a cross. If I, in all my imperfection and disobedience, can be forgiven, then I must forgive others.

Ephesians 4:32 says, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Our goal as Christians is to imitate Christ. He forgave us, which means we can forgive others. We can do this because the debt has been paid. This is a powerful and equipping truth.

Jesus reminds of another important reason to forgive. “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins” (Matthew 6:14-15). Forgiveness is for our benefit. We experience forgiveness in direct proportion to our willingness to forgive others. The Lord wants us to live an unbelievably blessed life through Him. Don’t let those blessings be hindered by living in bitterness and resentment toward others.


NewSpring is a life-giving church, marked by the presence of God, activated to make impacts on others. NewSpring is located in Anderson, South Carolina.



For All Ages

1. As a family – watch the youtube video: Forgiveness (with lyrics) by Matthew West.

Here’s the link:

2. Plan a Forgiveness Float Away

3. Ask your parents or some adults that you know to get some yellow helium balloons for you to plan a Forgiveness Float Away. This is when you write on the balloons - the names or initials of all those who have done something to hurt you.

By writing on the balloons you are acknowledging your pain as real – and when you release the balloons to float up and away– it symbolizes you letting go of your hurt – forgiving the offense – freeing yourself from the pain and control of unforgiveness – and having a new focus upward toward the sky – to your Heavenly Father.


This activity was provided by the Teacher Love Project - a Why Not Charleston community education initiative. The Teacher Love Project aims to provide love and encouragement to teachers that will elevate their wellness and care and therefore, enhance student achievement.  We must care for those who care for our children - we must love each other because God loved us first.

"We love because he first loved us."

1 John 4:19



"I Forgive”

by Taraea L Griffith

Father God many times I ask myself, why should I forgive _______, ________, _______?

But then I find that your word encourages us to forgive as we are forgiven.  Forgive me my debts and I also have forgiven my debtors. And lead me not into temptation but deliver me from the evil one.  For if I forgive men/women when they sin against me, my Heavenly Father will also forgive me.  Like Peter Lord asked how many times and you responded 77 times I ask you to forgive me for holding on to unforgiveness against _____,______,_____,_____,________. And I forgive every person that has offended, hurt, burdened, and/or judged me; Lord release the fruit of your love and let it be demonstrated everyday  in every way of my life. Amen


Taraea L. Griffith lives in Charleston with her husband, children, and grandchildren. She is a poet and writer, and making an offering of her special gifts and talents as a Why Not Charleston 2020 contributor.



Forgiveness is not Optional

by Greg Laurie on May 18, 2019

A story is told of Leonardo da Vinci’s creation of his painting “Last Supper,” in which he decided to paint the face of his enemy as the face of Judas Iscariot. Then, as he continued working, he could not bring himself to paint the face of Christ. He realized it was his hatred and bitterness that were preventing him from painting the face of Christ. So the artist went back to the image of Judas and repainted the figure with a nebulous face. Then he was able to paint the face of Christ.

There is a good point about forgiveness there. The simple truth is that until you have forgiven someone who has hurt or offended you, you will be unable to do what God really wants you to do.

Jesus taught us to pray, “Our Father in heaven, hallowed be Your name. Your kingdom come. Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors” (Matthew 6:9–12 NKJV).

This is essentially a model prayer. It’s a prayer that we build our other prayers upon. It shows us how to pray. Jesus was essentially saying, “Every day you should ask God to forgive you of your sins.” The word “debt” could be translated “trespasses,” “shortcomings,” “resentments,” “what we owe to you,” and “the wrong we have done.”

Any Christian who is walking with God is acutely aware of the fact they need daily cleansing from God. It has been said the greater the saint, the greater the sense of sin and the awareness of sin within. The more you walk with God, the more you will be aware of how much you fall short. The apostle Paul, after years of walking with the Lord, described himself as the chief of sinners.

Jesus not only taught us that we should pray for our own forgiveness, but also that we should “forgive our debtors” (Matthew 6:12 NKJV). According to Jesus, our generous and constant forgiveness of others should be the natural result of our understanding of the forgiveness that God has extended to us. In other words, forgiven people should be forgiving people.

If you know anything about the forgiveness of God, you should forgive others. And if you are not a forgiving person, then I have to wonder how much you know of God’s forgiveness. He has given it to you unconditionally. He has extended it to you in great generosity. And we should do the same to others.

In many ways, forgiveness is the key to all relationships that are healthy, strong and lasting. You had better learn how to forgive because conflict inevitably will come. Husbands will offend their wives. Wives will offend their husbands. Parents will offend their children. Children will offend their parents. Family members will offend one another. Friends will hurt friends. Coworkers will hurt each other. Sometimes it’s intentional. Sometimes it isn’t. Yet because we are human, we are going to hurt. Therefore, we must learn to forgive.

Where there is no forgiveness, a root of bitterness grows. And when bitterness grows, it is the end of a relationship.

The Bible says in Hebrews 12:15 that we should “watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many” (NLT).